Wednesday, May 22, 2013

Life Update

I am currently reading a novel by Heidi Jon Schmidt, The House on Oyster Creek.  The setting is the coast of Cape Cod where the main character, Charlotte, has moved with her husband and young daughter.  She has befriended an oyster farmer and is working to save the tidal flats where he "farms" oysters and clams.  In her quest she has a conversation with Ada, a woman who has lived in the town of Wellfleet her entire life and pays Charlotte a compliment:

"Charlotte glanced away - the flash of Ada's loneliness was too painful, and the praise made her shy - but she felt the truth of it:  She was uncertain partly because of her openness.  Henry [Charlotte's husband] could press ahead and crush his opposition because he didn't stop to ask himself whether he might be wrong.  Charlotte let life flow through and change her; and if this would have made her a very bad critic and a dreadful real estate developer, it had helped her become a good mother; the most ordinary, most important thing on earth."

I read that last night and has an aha moment.  Life has been swirling with the accomplishments of my family ~ my children's careers are flourishing, and my husband passed an important exam necessary to renew his New Hampshire credentials.  Throughout conversations and updates I listen and encourage.  When goals are reached I celebrate.  I take in stride whatever happens, find the positive points, and work hard to keep whatever I might think to myself.  Their lives impact mine.  I adapt and change.   I like Charlotte's idea that this is important.

I have been feeling that I am the most ordinary person I know, with little to share and not much to offer, hence the lack of posts from this corner.  Nothing new to see here, while my online friends are moving and shaking the world around them.  I am grateful for the photos and stories that people share.  I have not been holding up my end in the blogging world because the stories around here lately are not my stories to tell.  My vow to keep the focus on my life leads to b-o-r-i-n-g when all the goings on are internal as things shift and I search for balance.  I am still waiting for what's next for me...

In the meantime I have a new cat in my life.  Meet Millie ~
She's an eleven year-old cat who has some treatable health issues and needed a new foster home.  My daughter forwarded the information to me on Mother's Day.  I thought for sure someone would take her in, but this weekend the situation became urgent.  I called Sunday, my application was approved Monday, and Millie came to live with us Tuesday.  She made herself right at home on my quilt squares ~
She needs fattening up, along with medication to kick a urinary tract infection.  So I'm feeding her as much as she'll eat, giving her pills and fluids, and petting her as much as she'll allow.  She likes looking out the kitchen door just like Leo did ~
I can help her, and I think she's good for me.  I will let you know how it goes ~

11 comments:

Carolynn Anctil said...

No life is ordinary, least of all yours.

Millie reminds me so much of my little Celine. She looks a little sad in her pictures, but I'm sure that once her urinary tract infection is taken care of, her personality will come out and she'll be a wonderful companion for you.

teri said...

I am so beyond boring. But I do not have the heart to put it out into the blogging world. I am glad Millie has found you - that is no small thing.Hugs my friend.

One Woman's Journey - a journal being written from Woodhaven - her cottage in the woods. said...

Love your sharing
and
I feel I am just someone who has
dirt under her nails most of the time, wish more company would drop in and children and grandchildren
email.
I write mainly so they know what is going on and just for my pleasure....
Lucky Millie and my little Callie I rescued 3 years ago and they had to cut a chain off of her neck :(

Anonymous said...

Dearest Millie -

I'm so glad to know you, and hope that you continue to settle in. I know you've been through a lot, but you are in one of the best places in the world - honest. With much love - knm

RURAL said...

Uniqueness is in the very ordinarily moments that we all think mundane.

I agree with Carolynn, no life if ordinary, least of all yours.

Millie looks like a good companion to have around, and how delightful for her to spend her later years with someone that will care for her.

Jen

Helen said...

Look closely, my dear friend. Most of us mid-life women are “ordinary.” Yet, are we? We are moms (the toughest job ever; and forever); organizers; advocates; listeners; nurturers; consultants; family historians … The list goes on, but I will stop and just say that I believe we are all ordinary in countless extraordinary ways.

Mille is beautiful and so blessed to be in your loving care.

"The ordinary acts we practice every day at home are of more importance to the soul than their simplicity might suggest."
~Thomas Moore (1779-1852)
Irish poet, singer, songwriter

Anonymous said...

I think in many ways, everyone's life is ordinary when viewed from the inside and extraordinary when seen from the outside.

When you get the chance, perhaps you could share some pictures of your town and the countryside. You have no idea how exotic Maine seems to me.

Amazing that Millie headed straight for the quilting.

cindy said...

I love Millie and your posts. If I didn't have my husband to write about, I don't think I'd have much to say either! Very lucky he does not mind me writing about him. Well, he might, but since he doesn't read my blog, I'm safe:) People tell him about what I say on Twitter & Facebook, so sometimes he'll say "Do not tweet this!" But often, it's too late:)

Balisha said...

Sharon...
You are just an ordinary woman who loves her family and cares for them, one who sends comfort to bloggers in her comments (like me), one who takes in a cat who needs care and a home...It's what we women do...we are all ordinary... the mother of Jesus...the most ordinary of women.

I look forward to reading your posts and comments. Your part of the world is so different than mine...I love to read about your life in Maine....even your "ordinary" moments.
Balisha

mermaid said...

'Charlotte let life flow through and change her'

Seems to me that the river metaphor is just perfect for you, Sharon. To me it's more attractive than sharing posts on Facebook/blogging about all the things I've done or seen.

Laura said...

she's beautiful Sharon... thank you so much for your anniversary message. I bet you'll be good for Millie too:-)